Bella Ramsey has opened up about the reaction to coming out as non-binary, admitting part of them ‘regrets’ making the news public. 

The Last Of Us star, 21, revealed in 2023 that they are genderfluid and use they/them pronouns, admitting ‘being gendered isn’t something that I particularly like’.

Two years on from the announcement, Bella confessed they are in two minds about coming out, admitting the reaction has been a ‘mixed bag’. 

Speaking to The Observer, Bella confessed: ‘Part of me looks back and I wish that I didn’t, because I didn’t want it to become a headline and a big thing. 

‘And obviously it was going to, and I didn’t really understand that at the time. And I wasn’t really prepared for that. But on the other hand, people have said to me that it’s been very helpful for them seeing some representation.

‘So it’s been a mixed bag, but overall, I think it was a good thing, just for me living more freely, without feeling like I’m keeping a secret’. 

Bella Ramsey has opened up about the reaction to coming out as non-binary, admitting part of them ‘regrets’ making the news public (pictured earlier this month) 

Bella went on to note that while they are happy to talk about their gender idenтιтy they don’t want it to ‘be the focus’, and they just want everyone to be ‘chill’ about it. 

The British actor, who sH๏τ to fame on Game Of Thrones as Lyanna Mormont, told the New York Times that she found it ‘exciting’ when she was referred to as ‘he.’

She said: ‘I guess my gender has always been very fluid. Someone would call me she or her and I wouldn’t think about it, but I knew that if someone called me he it was a bit exciting.’

The star said she ticks ‘non-binary’ if it is an option on a form, before adding: ‘I’m very much just a person.

‘Being gendered isn’t something that I particularly like, but in terms of pronouns, I really couldn’t care less.’

Last month, Bella admitted it’s been tough to ‘still figure things out’ when it comes to their gender idenтιтy when they don’t have the ‘privilege’ of exploring their idenтιтy in private.

They told Vogue: ‘Part of the job of being an actor is that you’re supposed to have an answer to every question that people ask you. But actually the answer can be: “I don’t know and I’m not ready to talk about that”‘.

Bella continued: ‘If I did want to explore other things, like facets of my gender idenтιтy, that would be done publicly’.

‘As much as I would try and keep it private, if someone recognises me on the street, say if I’m presenting differently, [and] takes a pH๏τo, then that is just talked about’.

Last month, Bella revealed they were diagnosed with autism during the first season of the HBO series The Last Of Us, which filmed from June 2021 until July 2022

Bella wore a chest binder ’90 per cent’ of the time filming The Last Of Us, which takes place during a global pandemic that has transformed the infected into zombie-like creatures.

Elsewhere in the chat, Bella revealed they were diagnosed with autism during the first season of the HBO series, which filmed from June 2021 until July 2022.

While they’d previously spoken about their neurodivergence, but for ‘some reason didn’t want to’ share their official diagnosis before now.

Bella, who plays Ellie in the post apocalyptic drama, said: ‘I got diagnosed with autism when I was filming season one of The Last of Us’.

Autism is a lifelong developmental disability that affects how people perceive the world and interact with others.

They told the publication: ‘[The diagnosis was] Freeing, it enables me to walk through the world with more grace towards myself about not being able to do the easy everyday tasks that everyone else seems to be able to do.’

‘The label of being autistic has been so helpful to me because that’s helped me to understand myself, but gender and Sєxuality-wise, labels do not feel comfy for me in any capacity, because I feel like I’m putting myself into a box. I feel trapped’.

Bella also spoke about their gender idenтιтy with her co-star Pedro Pascal, whose sibling Lux is a trans woman. 

They said: ‘They weren’t always deep [conversations] they could be funny and humorous, the whole spectrum. We were just very honest and open with each other.’ 

Bella also spoke about their gender idenтιтy with her co-star Pedro Pascal, whose sibling Lux is a trans woman (pictured in November 2024)