Kate Hudson has confessed she finds the ‘feeling of failure’ the hardest part about walking away from a relationship as she opened up about her past romances. 

Appearing on Elizabeth Day’s podcast How To Fail, the American actress, 45, spoke candidly about how hard she has found it in the past to let go of a relationship as she admitted her therapist told her she had to stop dating men. 

The star admitted: ‘The hardest part about walking away from relationships is the feeling of failure. One hundred percent. 

‘So for me, that was the hardest thing, it’s letting go of the fact that it feels like a failure, or I couldn’t make something work, or I couldn’t fix something.

‘I think sometimes it’s like you’re trying to fit a square peg in the round hole and it’s just never going to happen.’ 

Explaining how she has grown to realise that sometimes people are just not meant to be she added: ‘Then you realise as it heals, “Oh, this isn’t the failure, this was exactly what needed to happen”

Kate Hudson has admitted she finds the ‘feeling of failure’ the hardest part of a break up as she confesses her therapist told her to stop dating men after split from ex Matt Bellamy

Appearing on the podcast How To Fail, the American actress, 45, confessed: ‘The hardest part about walking away from relationships is the feeling of failure’ (pictured with Matt in 2013) 

‘Because if you look back and you’re like, “uh oh, what did I do? Why couldn’t I do that? Why couldn’t I give that person what they needed?” Then you have to do some real reflecting and really go figure out what that is.’

Kate shares her eldest son Ryder, 21, with her ex-husband Chris Robinson, who she was married to from 2000 until 2006, before their divorce was finalised in 2007.

She then welcomed her second child Bingham, 13, with her ex-fiancé Matt Bellamy and also shares a daughter Rani Rose, six, with her current fiancé Danny Fujikawa.

Revealing her therapist advised her to stop dating men for a year prior to meeting Danny, she admitted by the end she ‘couldn’t care less about who was texting me.’ 

Kate went a year without men as she explained: ‘I took boys out of the equation and had to just go through this process of feeling very uncomfortable with not having any connection to anything that could ignite my dopamine, my flirtatious.’

Using the time she was single to work on herself, she admitted: ‘Then it was like I hit something, I hit this core of an issue for myself. I had [an] almost like childhood cry and it was like a weight had been lifted off of me and honestly, from that point on, I couldn’t care less about who was texting me.

‘My life became so happy alone. I felt very connected to what I wanted to do, my daily routine with my kids, my cozy time.

‘I didn’t care about putting anything on and so when then I went back into the dating world, my relationship to dating completely changed.’ 

Kate shares her second child Bingham, 13, with her Matt and explained the pair are now ‘very close’ after figuring out how to move on from their romantic relationship (pictured 2014)

Kate shares her eldest son Ryder, 21, with her ex-husband Chris Robinson, who she was married to from 2000 until 2006, before their divorce was finalised in 2007 (pictured in 2005) 

Kate has been with Danny Fujikawa since 2016 and the pair welcomed daughter Rani in 2018 before getting engaged two years later in 2021

Reflecting on the relationship with the her second child’s dad, Muse frontman Matt, Kate admitted: ‘We’re so close. I love him, his wife, his family, the kids, our kids are so close.’

Explaining how they managed to move on from a romantic love, she continued: ‘We figured out how to have a very different relationship that isn’t about us being together.

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‘We weren’t right for each other and we tried really, really, really hard and instead of blaming or creating the argument or creating the problem, it was just like “I don’t want to keep going down this path”.’

She explained that neither her or Matt did anything wrong and the pair’s breakup led her to work on herself and how to be alone.  

Kate has been with Danny since 2016 and the pair welcomed daughter Rani in 2018 before getting engaged two years later in 2021.

Revealing he was a best friend of her stepbrother she said: ‘I was so happy alone and because I wasn’t looking, the right person was right in front of me for 14 years.’

‘I knew Danny for so long and I think the thing about Danny is our value system is very similar. 

‘It’s so cosy and when you have that kind of support system, his value of family is so strong, it’s so solid that it just makes all of the times that can be hard or where life challenges you, it makes them so much easier.’

How to Fail with Elizabeth Day is available wherever you get your podcasts.