James May has given a rare insight into his 25 year relationship with his partner Sarah Frater. 

The former Top Gear host, 62, has been with the art critic since 2000, and urged other men to ‘make the effort’ in an update. 

Sharing a post to X on Valentine’s Day, James detailed what he would be cooking his ‘best girl’ to mark the occasion. 

He wrote: ‘It’s St Valentine’s day. So later on I, for one, will be cooking Sainsbury’s chicken pie with delicious BirdsEye frozen peas for my best girl, followed by a mᴀssive piece of cheeeese. Men – make the effort.’ 

The couple, who live together in west London, never married with James once putting it down to being ‘a late developer.’ 

Speaking to The Times he admitted that he didn’t want to be an ‘older father’ as he felt it was unfair. 

James May has given a rare insight into his 25 year relationship with his partner Sarah Frater (pictured together in 2015)

James explained: ‘Maybe ‘unfair’ was a bit strong. But when I was at school there was a boy whose dad was the same age as my granddad and it felt weird.’

Referring to Al Pacino, 84, and his ex Noor Alfallah, 30, you welcomed a child together in June 2023, he said how he’s ‘not going to be around much.’

The TV personality continued: ‘And that actor who recently had a child with a much younger woman? He’s not going to be around very much, is he? Then again, you can be young and still not be around much, so who knows? 

‘I have a ready audience of nieces and nephews. But listen, if anyone wants their child to learn how to fix a puncture, send them to me.’

Elsewhere, James recently insisted that his exit from hit BBC series Top Gear was avoidable as he opened up about the show.

The presenter, alongside co-stars Jeremy Clarkson and Richard Hammond, had been the face of the series for over a decade since he joined in 2002.

However, after an on-set altercation between Jeremy and a producer, the trio exited the series and continued working together in 2015 on an Amazon Prime series The Grand Tour.

Now James has revealed that he believes the BBC could have dealt with Jeremy’s actions – in which he punched producer Oisin Tymon – differently. 

Sharing a post to X on Valentine’s Day, James detailed what he would be cooking his ‘best girl’ to mark the occasion 

The couple, who live together in west London, never married with James once putting it down to being ‘a late developer’ (pictured in September 2024)

Following the incident, an investigation was launched and Jeremy was to exit the show with co-stars James and Richard refusing to sign new contracts with the BBC, causing the successful era of the show to end.

James has now confessed to The Sunday Times: ‘I thought it was very unfortunate and I don’t actually think our Top Gear had to end because of it. I think it could have been patched up and put down to a bit of high stress and flightiness, to be honest.  

‘It happened. It’s regrettable and it’s unfortunate, but it didn’t need to lead to the collapse of something very successful.’ 

James added that he believed the trios exit was down to people thinking it was ‘time of us to move on’.

Jeremy’s actions with Oisin were reportedly due to him returned to his H๏τel in North Yorkshire after a long day of filming and found there was no available H๏τ food to order. 

The famous trio have now ended up in different places with Jeremy being the most successfully on Prime Video’s Clarkson’s Farm, Hammond on his car restoration show Richard Hammond’s Workshop and James in James May and the Dull Men, shown on Discovery+.